Is it Mortality, Prayer or Drive?

Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about how fragile we really are as humans. When we are really young, we are in such a hurry to grow up, that we don’t really appreciate who/where we are. I know it sounds cliché, but it certainly rings true to most everyone I speak with, especially once you hit your 40s, 50s and even 60s… For example: I couldn’t wait to get my driver’s license and gain my independence, go to bars and dance clubs and legally drink, own a condo at 22, and finally start to make my own money and decisions…

Then one day, you wake up and realize wow, where has the time gone?  Where do I see myself in the next 30 or 40 years?  What will I look like? Where will I live? Will I get married? Hell, will I make it to see my kids graduate, get married, and/or have babies??? 

The older and wiser I become, everything and everyone in my life means so much more to me. My colleagues, my family, my friends- new and old. I am now using a new motto I like to call “Scared AF, but embracing every last moment!” 

If I could give my younger self some advice it would be this:

Be positive and grateful 

Be positive and appreciate the people who have helped you succeed and always give thanks and gratitude – it will come back to you tenfold. 

Believe in yourself

I have and will forever continue to believe that we all possess the power to be successful. You are never too old to accomplish anything in your lifetime! You don’t want to wake up one day and think you are too old to achieve the goals, desires or dreams. That is a mindset which will wreak havoc on your psyche. Just slow down and just enjoy each milestone.

Visualize your goals

I had a goal to move to South Carolina, pursue a recruiting career I am passionate about, and believed that the rest would fall into place. I continue to write in my journals, believe that with all my heart I am going to live a happy, healthy life, and see my children achieve their long-term goals. 

Trust in God that it will work out as it is meant to be

Obstacles and challenges are most times meant to teach us lessons and lead to self-growth. At the time I experienced difficulties or challenges I didn’t understand why ... It was when I let go and realized that I needed to trust in fate and faith – that everything happened the way it was meant to.

Always push harder

I am a person who has been said to possess a great sense of humor, a love of adventure, taking on new challenges, having fun- no matter what the circumstances, passion for philanthropy and community, and a love for animals …. To be this complex and passionate as a person, it does start with an innate instinct to constantly push harder.

As for being “Scared AF”- yep, it will always be in the back of my head and time will continue to fly by at warp speed…The difference now is I realize I will never be ready, but will enjoy the ride and accept whatever comes my way.